As far as I can remember back, I had never been scared to try something new! I never sought after anyone's opinion on whether something looked good, tasted good or felt good. As I climbed up the age latter I noticed somethings changed. note: to all the people I love and know personally, this is why you must be concerned about your circle of friends (like Catt Williams said, god bless his soul "you need a tight team") and what kind of energy they exert around YOU! I began to let others opinion's shape my being. I wasn't as aware of it on a daily basis but one day I woke up and said "self today is the day we will self evaluate"! Let's just say the next three days were tears, tissue and a lot of knee bending. I asked the holy spirit how I had gotten here, here was dry, unfulfilled, monotonous and outright just sad. Waking up and doing the same ole' thang. My soul was not being fed.........period! I needed more God, support, art, simplicity, community, creativity, real love, truth, individuals not afraid to be individuals, lets just say I needed a lot and I wasn't getting it where I was. You know what I learned, in order to get new results you've got to have a new action. You do the same old shit, you get the same old results! I was tired of the washing machine and was ready to get in the dryer.
1. first thing first, acknowledging that there was a problem! How did I get to this point!
2. be honest with oneself, if u thought u heard him talking nasty on the phone to another woman don't try to convince yourself that it was his mother! If you saw your best friend in your purse taking a 100 dollar bill, don't pretend that she asked you and you just can't remember when!
3. start cleaning house, and I don't mean with a mop I mean with your mind. If someone is mentally draining and there not an asset, in the recycle bin they go for someone else to try ( maybe then they'll get it right, everybody deserves a second chance, just not with you!)
4. get a plan- a business plan, a faith plan, a love plan ( you can give instead of always trying to get), a life plan. I love my people so im going to keep it 100, get up off that ass and plan more than a damn child's 1st birthday party!
5. be prepared to leave it all behind ( and this may happen several times until you get it right) stop trying to hold on to something that's not yours anymore!
6. go ahead you can do it, step out there. all you need is God! Step out on faith. The most successful sisters and brothers in business, love and life took that leap of faith and you must too, to get to the other side.
7. this is a big one and goes back to the beginning of my blog. surrounding yourself around positive people, when you call they come and you the same. being supportive sometimes means sitting your opinions on the shelf and just being there for an ear. if you've got a nay Sayer nine times out of ten, they just can't start their own engine and just like to put sugar in your tank, to the recycle bin they go!
I have so much to say on this subject and will revisit it in parts, let's call this part " A fresh Start" hell, everyone needs one.
So come on people, it's time to reach our full potential and this is just the beginning. I have made a lot of mistakes, listened to a lot of bad advice that ended badly, but I didn't give up.. I got up, dusted myself off and kept it movin!
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